A Collection of Stories

“When grief found me inconsolable it gave me a pen and said write your way out, console yourself. Get yourself beyond the insanity. I wrote and wrote and wrote all the way to here.”
-Christina Rasmussen

NESTING: Mixed-orientation Marriage and Other New Concepts

June 14, 2019June 14, 2019 Parenting

I’ve expanded my vocabulary. Nesting (keeping the kids in the home while the parents rotate), mixed-orientation marriage (straight/gay spouses), divorce, custody. Looking Back When the reality of separation and ultimately ... Read more

SLEUTHING: The Art of Overlooking Reality

May 29, 2019May 29, 2019 Relationships

This post sat in Draft for a long time; it’s been difficult to hit the Publish button. I’ve been afraid. Fearful of exposing my weaknesses, my shortcomings, that I had ... Read more

TELLING: Hey Boys, Dad is Gay

May 11, 2019May 29, 2019 Parenting

We were The Duncan 5. United. Tight-knit. Loving, goofy, fun, and a little bit of crazy chaos. Keyword: were. Telling Our Children Their Dad is Gay Matt and I didn’t ... Read more

TIMELINE: A Year of Unraveling and Discovery

April 23, 2019April 28, 2019 Relationships

To provide context and because the unfolding of my story will not be linear, I share an email that I sent to a close group of family and friends as ... Read more

OUT: When My Husband Came Out as Gay, I Lost Myself

April 23, 2019April 24, 2019 Grief and Healing

Oct 2, 2015. 7:45 PM. While I was unpacking from an exhausting week-long business trip, Matt came into our bedroom and sat in that beautiful white armchair that I loved. ... Read more